There is a particular kind of heaviness that arrives when life asks us to let go of or allow something we loved. Whether it be a relationship, a version of ourselves, a chapter we weren’t ready to close, when we are in the threshold it can be confusing. Grief, loss, and endings carry a density that can make the future feel unreachable, as though the contraction of the present moment has swallowed all possibility.

When we are under a Pisces New Moon, the cosmos (or arrangement of the heavens) are holding us in exactly that space. And it is asking something quietly courageous of us: Can we stay present at the threshold? Can we remain true and centered when everything around us seems to be coming undone?

The only way something new can begin is for something to end. Like the breath where we can only inhale once we exhale and we can only exhale once we have completed the inhale.

What is a Threshold Really?

As a counselor in and in psychology we refer to these moments as liminal – from the Latin limen, meaning doorway. A threshold is not a place of arrival or departure; it is the in-between. The held breath. The moment after one wave crashes and before the next gathers. In Astrology we refer to them as the void, where we still can see what there is to see but it feels as if nothing is happening.

Thresholds are inherently destabilizing because they ask us to exist in ambiguity, ugh right! The human mind is wired to resist ambiguity. When things are not clear we do not feel safe. We are meaning-making creatures. When we can’t yet see what’s on the other side, our nervous system often reads that uncertainty as danger.

The Existential Question at the Center

You may find yourself asking it right now: What is the point of expanding if you are only going to contract? What is the point of loving if you are only going to lose the one you love? (or as some of my younger clients have asked) What is the point of living if you are just going to die?

This is not a crisis of logic. It is a crisis of meaning and it is one of the most human questions there is around existence. When we explore the Pisces archetype, we discover Pisces knows this question intimately. Pisces lives at the edge of the visible and the invisible, the temporal and the eternal. It is the sign that reminds us: energy does not end. It transforms. It continues in a new form and it reflects back to us.

Personally I consider Pisces the Mystic Tide where imagination, compassion, intuition, and the dissolving of separation are core ingredients to its essence.Pisces feels the subtle currents of life and channels inspiration from the unseen.

Present Energetics

Grief, loss, endings, closure, devastation, all of this causes such a contraction and density of life that it feels like we lose our great ability to step into possibility.

What we forget is with the impermanence of life there is an energy that extends beyond. We create, we sustain, we dissolve, but in the dissolve it doesn’t end; rather, it extends beyond. Beyond our understanding, our comprehension, because there is a continuum.

When we are in this energetic field we can respect and offer reverence to what I call the divine paradox of life. A divine paradox where the only way something new can begin is for something to end. Like the breath, we can only inhale once we exhale, we only can exhale once we have inhaled.

Crossing Together

The deal is, we are here at this crossing point together, ALL OF US, united in the grand mystery of existence. A tad bit of an existential crisis: what is the point of expanding if you are only going to contract? What is the point of loving if you are only going to lose the love one day? What is the point of living if you are only going to ultimately die? (Again – heavy but very very real – especially in the conversations I intimately hold – especially because endings to life are gut wrenching and change our trajectory for ever!)

A lot of us do not realize, understand or even comprehend for that matter that the experience and exchange of energy continues on and allows us to evolve, grow and discover a dimension of ourselves and our life we never knew possible. That in these thresholds there is also an awakening of a relationship that offers reverence for what was and what is yet to be.

As we all stand at this threshold, spend time with your heart’s true desires and call in the change that brings forward the highest for all those involved. Plant seeds of faith in the greater good and nourish with the waters of collective compassion.

Psychological Flexibility at the Crossing Point

In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), one of the core capacities we cultivate is psychological flexibility. Yep, flexibility where the ability to remain open, present, and values-driven even when life is painful or uncertain. It is not the absence of grief. It is the willingness to grieve while still moving. Or as the Italian’s say bare patience – patience where we trust at a cellular level we are meant to be here and in life’s unfolding the meaning will be revealed. That we can face difficulties without having our essence devoured completely.

Thresholds are, in many ways, the ultimate test of psychological flexibility. They ask us to hold two truths simultaneously:

This loss is real and it matters.
What comes next is also real, is not yet visible, and it feels like it is trying to destroy me.

Astrology As Care – Ending to Begin

The Pisces New Moon amplifies this tension beautifully. Pisces rules the dissolution of the ego, the return to source, the spaces between waking and dreaming. Paired with Sun sextile Uranus, a soft but electric invitation toward awakening, today’s sky asks us not to rush the crossing, but to become conscious within what is her for us. There is also the energy of Venus squaring Jupiter where tenderness is meets expansion (though you may find feisty rage meets emotional overload).

This aspect with Venus and Jupiter adds a particular flavor to the threshold energy: a tension between what the heart holds dear (Venus in Aries) and the call to grow beyond what we’ve known (Jupiter in Cancer). You may feel the pull of nostalgia alongside the undeniable momentum of becoming. Both are valid. Neither cancels the other.

Three Ways to Move Through a Threshold

Name the crossing

Thresholds lose some of their power when we recognize them. Say it aloud or in your journal: I currently am experiencing a liminal space (or sitting with the void). I am between what was and what will be. This is not weakness actually it is clearing that allows for orientation.

Return to the breath

The breath is the original threshold as the sustainer of life. The breath is the living metaphor the cosmos gave us. Every exhale is a small release. Every inhale is a small act of faith. When the weight of an ending presses in, begin there. One breath. Then another. I totally understand that the working with the breath can be agitating, so if it helps you to just notice your inhale and then your exhale, that is a huge practice itself.

Plant seeds rather than demand harvests

A New Moon is not the time for arrival (especially this one). It is the time for intention. Under Pisces, the seeds we plant are watered by feeling, by compassion, by the willingness to imagine, dream and believe. What does your heart truly desire? Not the fearful mind’s compromise (because fear is always ready to take the lead) but the heart & soul’s true desire.

You Are Not Alone at the Threshold

The continuum the cosmos speaks of is not abstract even if it feels this way. It lives in the moments where we reach toward one another across the mystery. Honoring the mystery in the shared recognition that grief is love with nowhere to go at this moment, and that not-yet-knowing is not the same as not-becoming.

We are here together at this crossing point. And the seeds we plant today, under these dark and luminous Pisces skies, will find their light. Especially as we are at the end of winter and spring begins when the sun enters Aries causing the spring equinox where we have the balance of day and night.

With Love and Reverence for the Grand Mystery

You are invited. If this energy has been sitting with you, if you are standing at your own threshold and could use good company, then please come join us.

On the 3rd Thursday I am offering an open, virtual gathering. A space to center, connect, and simply be in honest conversation. No agenda beyond presence. Think of it as the kind of gathering where we are all allowed to be ourselves and breathe together. Register here: VIRTUAL CONNECT. Remember it is free but space is limited

For two decades I held space on the yoga mat. This is that same spirit, just moved inward and no yoga mat necessary!